In the midst of conflicts, many people get caught in their own thoughts and beliefs, believing them to be TRUE.
Here’s a simple 4-steps method I find useful to put our beliefs to the test:
THINK IN DEPTH OF A STRESSFUL SITUATION
Think of a stressful situation involving diverging interests or disagreement. Immerse yourself for a moment in that situation. Don’t try being reflected, distant, positive or even rational.
So now you have thoroughly judged this person. Don’t forget to note down your thoughts as answers to these questions!
IS YOUR THINKING = THE TRUTH?
Is your judgment true? Are your thoughts true?
QUESTION YOUR THOUGHTS!
Now turn your thoughts around and write them down (It’s very important you note them down so you can observe them from the outside!):
WHAT IS THE TRUTH?
Is there any truth in these new thoughts?
A LITTLE CONCLUSION FOR NOW:
Letting go of judgment is not easy! Testing our beliefs can be very confusing. This seemingly simple method has the power to make judgment and false beliefs crumble!
I hope you’ll find good use of this method of questioning your thoughts. When I started using it I was completely confused. Now it’s just one of many habits in my toolkit.
In fact, I'd be happy if you'd like to share what happens when you try to turn your thoughts around!
Friendly, Lise Bjarkli
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